Tomorrow we find out if they are going to send me to Day Treatment, or to Residential Treatment for the next 2+ years. I'm def scared. I know I won't be going to school for a while, and my mom says there is a possibility that I may have to graduate a year later than my peers, which is ok I guess. At least then I will be 18 when I graduate instead of 17. With Day Treatment if I complete my treatment fast enough, I may be able to make up any credits that I miss to graduate at the same time as my peers.
Honestly, graduation and school seem so inconsequential compared to facing 2+ years in a mental hospital away from my family. Cade would be 18 by the time I get out, if that doesn't tell you something, it ought to.
As for graduating with people my age, or people I know my age, I could care less. For the most part, I find that the people my age can't handle my problems and so I can't make very good lasting relationships.
The biggest thing that scares me is not going to Res, although that would suck. It's that this is going to get worse. It's that I won't be ok, until I'm 20 or 30. If the doctors diagnosis is correct and this is "emerging" BPD, then I am going to get much much worse. With 2 attempts on my record, and BPD having the highest suicide rate, plus the fact it's not going to get better for 6+ years, that's a scary thought, even when you don't want to think about.
Another huge downside to Res, besides that they are so expensive, is that Kelly and Jamie just had twins (yay them!!) and If I go, I won't be able to meet them until they are 2+, after I get out.
My parents want Day Treatment, as do I, but Dr. Goldstein thinks that Residential Treatment would be better for me.
It has the highest rate of helpfulness for people with BPD, and even then it's not very high. In fact, most all forms of treatment don't work very well.
Of Course, if you haven't already heard all of this, you haven't read my mom's blog.
But obviously, I do not want to spend 2+ years away from home. In that time, my family may move, which means I would never see this house again, or my room.
For those who don't know, I took 14 pills, or 700 mg, of a anti-depressant, that works as my sleep aid. In other words, I took 700 mg of sleeping pills.
So tomorrow is the day that I die (go to res) or live (day treatment).
I say that, because not seeing my family or being home for so long is like a little death for me, a little death inside me.
Signed
Maddi
DOne with treatment, or at least residential
14 years ago
You won't be going this week no matter what - so you good for this week. I also wanted to point out that the bad outlook is for those who refuse help and refuse to change with therapy. If you are willing to work at it, you can get better and have a great life. I want that for you.
ReplyDeleteAww...Makae, sorry you are facing this right now. But I bet even if you have to do the 2 year res, it won't be that bad. You will make friends and it will be like a 2nd family. Even more importantly, it could save your life and help you so you can get passed this and grow into a happy, successful adult. We all love you and don't want to lose you.
ReplyDeleteMakae, I'm so sorry about this! It is scary to think it will get worse before it gets better. Just hang on to the promise that it will get better. Work with the therapist. Life can be good again. I love you lots.
ReplyDeleteMakae - I commented yesterday but the comment isn't here - now I can't remember what i said, and I am simply to tired to remember it tonight. I will try again tomorrow - I love you and it breaks my heart for the pain that you are suffering - I hope Joy can help you and that we get to keep you for the next two years!
ReplyDeletejust try to remember that the biggest key to your success in treatment lies within you, if you are willing to work with your therapists and be involved with your treatments you will see a much greater improvment.
ReplyDeleteNo matter what treatment option you take remeber the nice thing about family is they are always going to be there, so even if you do not get to see them all as often as you would like they are still there loving you,thinking of you and wanting you to be happy and healthy.
It was nice to see you when I was home, you have grown into such a beatiful young lady.